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DIFFICULT STATEMENTS

by Florence Steiner

I have noticed at least five short statements that we human beings seem to have trouble saying to one another. You may not have thought about it before, noticed it, or even experienced all of some of these statements, but I thought it noteworthy to embellish upon them and share them with you. I have noticed this with myself, friends, acquaintances and strangers in public situations:

· 1. Thank you

       · 2. I Am Wrong
        · 3. I Am Sorry
        · 4. I Apologize
        · 5. I Love You (regardless of gender)

THANK YOU

A simple "Thank You" I have noticed not being said from family at gift giving time, doing them a favor, and even more public; especially when yielding your right-away to someone else and they do not even give you a wave of acknowledgment. The other day I was at the drug store. I was not in a hurry but everyone else seemed to be for it was Christmas time. I thought to myself some of these people might be in a hurry to get back to work. A man standing near me but I was next in line with only one item in my hand. He looked like he could barely hold several items in his hands so when the clerk called "next", I said to the man "you go". He hurried to the clerk and did not even acknowledge me, yet, he surely must have heard me say "you go first". While driving home, there was a four-way stop and I was to the right of another vehicle. I had the right-of-way, right? I motioned to the other driver to go first and he really stepped on the gas... maybe he thought I might change my mind!! I received no gesture of thanks. Now, I am not saying that everyone can't say "Thank You" for many times I do hear it; however, many times I do not. Are we in such a rush today we forget good manners..... sometimes.....many times? Take note. Have you experienced similar situations and also from people you love?

I AM WRONG

I found this to be an almost "impossible" words to come out of a person's mouth. It does not feel good to be wrong and I have found through family and friends and even acquaintances not be able to say they wronged you. To say "I Am Wrong" is like saying I admit I did something that was wrong and I face up to the fact that I shouldn't have said that or even behaved in the fashion that I did. I have noticed that this statement missing many times. I need to work on it myself and I try to consciously keep it in mind. Many times it is so painful to say we even make excuses for ourselves so we won't have to say it. We say, well what I said to her/him wasn't all that bad or what I did or didn't do wasn't all that important, so we don't say it for when we do, it seems to take a piece out of us somehow, breaking us down. I try to work on this one too and have often gone the other way, searching for anything I did or say that could have hurt someone else to make myself that I also wronged them so they won't be the initiator of the wrong. I go back and say to myself "if I hadn't said this or if I hadn't done that, then maybe they would not have been so mean and did such a wrong thing towards me". Sometimes it is a thin line... yet, I found the perpetrator usually can't say I was wrong and even if they acted completely out of line to the extreme somehow, if they can say I was wrong, you still get the feeling they put you in it, and don't completely take the blame.

I AM SORRY

The words "I Apologize" I have found are hard fro us human beings to say because first, all the sayings above come into play before we can actually apologize. An apology usually takes more words too.... making a statement to the person or persons who wronged by you. Many times when you apologize you state what you did wrong to another and even ask for forgiveness. I try and work on this one too. I try to keep in mind if I ever hurt anyone. Sometimes you can hurt someone by words or actions and not realize it. Should the friend or family member tell you they are hurt to give you a chance to apologize? I feel the answer is "yes". If you do not say you are hurting inside by something they did or said, you are not giving them the opportunity to take a look at the situation and see how you could be hurt by their actions. Many times this is effective by role reversal for, again we do not like to feel like wronged or are wrong. If you love the person who hurt you, you are doing them a disservice by not telling them, giving them the opportunity to apologize and your harbour hurt feelings, which do not make for a good relationship down the road.

I LOVE YOU

Many people have a hard time saying these words to another human being regardless of gender. It is expressing love from human being to another. Christ said "Love Ye One Another". Many times with friends and family these words are hard to say; so much so, did you ever experience the shorter version of "I Love You" as "Love Ya"... again, said like they are in a hurry. Do you really feel loved when it comes back to you this way or initiated this way? I do think we do not say "I Love You" to a friend or family member unless it is male-female relationship like boyfriend and girlfriend or husband-wife, for it is an old stigma that these words are only said under these conditions. LOVE has nothing to do with sex or gender!!! Love is the feeling you have from one human being to another you feel a connection with. All of Jesus's disciples were men when he said "Love Ye One Another". I try to work on this one too and have found some dear friends who have trouble saying these words. One friend came from another country where it was not said and you certainly did not hug one another either.... she now says it to me and when I see her she knows she is getting a hug from me and now accepts it... I still have to smile about it... in fact, now she initiates it... isn't "I Love you", meaning it GRAND!!!! Doesn't the recipient feel good after receiving it? Jesus knew what He was saying!!!

FLORENCE STEINER, PSYCHIC-MEDIUM, AUTHOR
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